Since the discovery of the G-spot, women everywhere have been trying to uncover the truth behind this mysterious and astonishing little body part. The Grafenberg spot was named after its official discoverer, gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg in 1944. If you pick up a book on tantric sex, however, you find that practitioners have been playing with this "sacred spot" for over a millennium.
You can get lost hunting through the swarms of speculation about the G-spot. Some claim it is equivalent in tissue and sensitivity to the male prostate and when aroused can swell with fluid that is very similar to urine, but has a different chemical composition. Better known as female ejaculate, it's a clear, watery fluid that leaves a wet spot on the sheets when you come-- don't worry, this is a bit different from golden showers for those not into that sort of thing.
There is also debate about whether every woman has a G-spot. Italian researcher Dr. Emmanuele Jannini claims to be able to detect the G-spot in women through ultrasounds, but this may distress women who might not find their little gold mine of arousal. Regardless of whether you're packing the G or not, there are many other ways to be stimulated and all are equally incredible. Let's get down there and explore that mine.
Here is the universal treasure map to the G-spot. Although we call it a spot it is more like an area. If you have one, then it should be found about one to two inches inside the vagina on the front wall. Take your middle finger and go in knuckle deep while making the "come here" motion. The area is a bit rougher-- like a walnut-- than the smoother areas of the vaginal wall. If this rubbing and stroking feels good then keep doing it, you've struck gold. During sex one of the easiest ways to stimulate the G-spot is doing it doggy style, because of the constant stimulation to the front vaginal wall. That's why it's such a fun position!
If it's a table for one tonight, then you may want to invest in a good G-spot vibrator. There are a number of sex stores and consultants in the city offering a large variety of male and female G-spot toys, starting from cheap thrills all the way to "it better do my dishes for that price." Most times if you buy the reasonably priced ($20-$50) toy, with proper storage and cleaning you will have a great toy that should last. If you like angry sex, however, buy two, you never know when you're going to get really creative or need a back up.
Whether the G-spot is a mythical creature or just undiscovered terrain doesn't really matter-- as long as your toes curl and your pupils dilate something right is happening. There is always lots to discover, so keep playing.
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